Monday, 10 July 2017

Modern Day Mothers

Today whilst Eryn-Rose slept sweetly on my lap I found myself watching TV, something which is a rarity for a weekday daytime. I got sucked into ITV's This Morning and they had a phone in for Mothers who were basically struggling, something I can certainly relate to. However when I came it across the discussion on their facebook post I was disgusted at some of the comments. It was a cross between world's biggest sob story and a 'get over it' attitude. Woman saying how their Grandma trekked half way across the country with 10 kids worked and still managed to have a clean house and tea on the table by 5. Well hats off to you Grandma's!

The thing is people are so quick to drag others down. Back in the 50's and 60's life was different and spending time with your children wasn't a huge thing and life was considered good as long as you had food on the table. Women didn't necessarily have to work either depending on the other half's wage. When I was growing up things weren't too bad I was brought up by just my mum for the first ten years of my life, she worked and we got by. When she married my step dad and we became a family and my mum had two children we did ok my Dad worked full time and my Mum worked part time or not at all. Now in this day and age every couple/family I know both parents work full time.


Mothers and equally Fathers struggle in life today managing family life alongside work. Many of the comments I read suggested that women were just struggling to keep on top of the housework and that these struggling mothers should simply just get on with it. I'm not ashamed to admit that I'm finding life pretty tough right now. I have just returned work having had to reduce my hours as they couldn't offer me full time flexible hours, meaning we have lost £1000 a month. On top of that I have training I need to do at home as I don't have time to complete it at work, the car needs a lot of repairs (again), we have credit cards to pay back after having to use them to survive and fix the car, childcare issues because I do not have £5.50 per hour per child spare, medical issues that I have to try and fit appointments in around school runs and work, emotional issues regarding everything going on and my children and the lack of time I seem to have for them, oh and lets not forget the shopping, cleaning, washing and cooking. Have I missed anything off??

I was so angry reading some of those comments because they just assume they know everything about a person and think well if I can do it I don't see why they can't.
Why in 2017 do we feel it is ok to have this attitude?
Why do we feel that we need the biggest triumph and sob story?
Why can't we just help a damn mother or father that just needs that little bit of help?

I don't really know what more I can say other than please for the love of God, stop being a horrible human being. If you can't or don't have anything nice or supportive to say then don't say anything because your negative attitude could be the reason someone takes their own life!

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